Have you ever imagined how to be successful? Does it ever seem like you can’t make it like others do? As if everyone around you is having an easier time of things than you are? At that point in time, you begin to feel sorry for yourself and think, “Why can’t I make it too?” Well, I used to think about it too until I saw the quote, “Fake it, till you make it”. The idea of faking it till you make it is very controversial, some identify this behavior as being inauthentic and claiming what you’re not. To my own understanding, I feel it is only the person who misinterprets the phrase that feels this way. This old aphorism is not meant to suggest that you tell lies or take a position you cannot defend.
For a proper interpretation, this quote is about being confident, pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone, and learning new things. There are tons of research to prove that embodying the persona of a successful person, is one of the most effective methods to meet your goals and achieve your dreams i.e. following the footsteps of someone you call a mentor. But most times, where the problems lie is how to start or where to start.
For some, it is a question of “How do I make it?” And some, a question of “Can I even make it?”.Maybe out of curiosity, you’ve imagined or even Google searched “How to be successful?” Well, at one point or another in our respective lives, we’d have thought of this and some might get confused and some might find a solution to their problems and easily identify what works for them. Not everyone has that privilege.
This is where “FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT” phrase comes in play. Austin Kleon once wrote, there are two ways to read this phrase:1. Pretend to be something you’re not until you are—fake it until you’re successful, until everybody sees you the way you want them to; or2. Pretend to be making something until you make something. I love both readings. Here is a simple analogy—you have to dress for the job you want, not the job you have, and you have to do the work you want to be doing. Preparations for the future is an addition to this. Nobody is born with a style or a voice.
We don’t come out of the womb knowing who we are. In the beginning, we learn from our parents and those older than us, the teachings they impose or expose us to will determine how we set our mind-set prior to when we get old enough to learn from our heroes (mentors) by pretending to be our heroes. Another way of learning is by copying from those we refer to as mentors and practice what they practice (if it works out for you) and not plagiarism—plagiarism is trying to pass someone else’s work off as your own. Copying is more in relation to reverse engineering. It’s like a mechanic taking apart a car to see how it works.
But copying doesn’t come easy. First, figure out who to copy. Then what to copy. From reality checks, who to copy is easy. You copy your heroes—the people you love, the people you’re inspired by, the people you want to be. What to copy is a little trickier. Don’t just steal the style, steal the thinking behind the style. You don’t want to look like your heroes; you want to see like your heroes. The reason to copy your heroes and their style is so you might somehow get a glimpse into their minds. That’s what you really want—to internalize their way of looking at the world. If you just mimic the surface of somebody’s work without understanding where they are coming from, your work will be nothing more than a knockoff.
To get started,
1. If you had confidence, what will you do? This is a question you should ask yourself, because most times there are a lot of things we want to do but because we are not confident enough, we end up not doing them. You want to fake it till you make it? Then ask yourself the question, “what will I do if I had the confidence?”. Maybe the business idea you’ve had, but you’re not confident to start till, grow some confidence and hit the play button.
2. Is it something you’re passionate about? Okay, you’ve decided on what you could do if you had confidence. You then need to ask yourself, is it something you’re passionate about? Because most times, passion is a catalyst for success. It helps speeds up your race to being a successful human being. So if you are not passionate about what you feel you would do, it’s not for you. Calm down and think about it again.
3. Let your body control your brain: Yeah, we know our actions are being controlled by the brain but what this phrase means is that you should practice and act the part of what your passion is. Let your mentality be controlled by your physical strength and doings. Do things that will let your brain flow in that direction and get acquainted and allows you to think towards that direction.
4. Focus on your goal: Focus, another key procedure one needs to follow to achieve success. When you think of something and you remain focused on getting that thing, in no time you will get it. So set a goal and focus on it.
5. Less talk, more action. Do not just act the part, do the part. You need to stop saying your laid down goals and what you are looking to achieve and start acting on them. Okay, you have a delightful idea and you are confident that it is a hit, but it won’t be a hit if you don’t act on it. So, act more, talk less.
6. Learn to deal with challenges: Challenges will definitely come your way and make you feel you are missing something but your ability to deal with them and equally overcome them is a quality to treasure as a successful person.
When you feel you can’t do anything or not inspired to start. I suggest these steps listed above would help you get over that and become more confident. Remember, confidence, passion, focus and ability to deal with challenges are key elements a successful person should possess. I look forward to seeing you all at the top. Peace.